* Create common interests. I have read quite a few books on marriage and the drastic differences between men and women. One book I read was about how to affair-proof your marriage. While I enjoyed most of the book, there was one chapter that really turned me off –the chapter about recreational companionship. The chapter basically said that a husband and wife should participate in only those activities that both parties can enjoy together. Would my husband ever join me in scrapbooking, or would he ever give my hip-hop class a shot? Not a chance. Do I ever want to learn to play chess or peruse the Internet for the latest technology advances? No thank you.
In spite of the fact that I didn’t agree with everything in this chapter, I applied its principles and joined my husband in watching a Formula One race. Does it get any more boring than watching cars go round and round a track? Yes, watching golf. But my husband doesn’t watch that. But because my husband spent so much time on the weekends watching those F1 races on television, I decided to suffer through watching an entire race with him. Guess what happened? I enjoyed it. He explained the nuances (yes, there are race car nuances) of the sport (yes, I now call Formula One racing a sport) to me, which made the race much more interesting.
Formula One racing has now become a major source of bonding for the entire family. Shiloh makes scones on race weekends, and we sit and watch the race together. Well, the kids get pumped for the scones and go in and out of watching the race. And I have been known to fold some laundry (it’s a long race), but we all enjoy the F1 race days.
To top things off, Shiloh and I even joined a “fantasy Formula One league” on the Internet where we pick our “A” drivers, “B” drivers, and teams every race week. After reading that, I know some of you may now be tempted to shred this book, but before you do you must know two things. First, I won the Fantasy League this year. The prize was nothing. My team name was “Moms for Massa.” (Massa was one of the drivers for Ferrari®.) And second, joining my husband in this activity has been awesome for our marriage.